okay everyone's got a bottom written by
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Tess Rowley and illustrated by Jody
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Edwards hi I'm Ben and this is Jack and
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our baby sister Emma and this is sock
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see Jack and I have lots of fun
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sometimes we play in the sandpit and
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make bridges and tunnels Emma likes to
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play too one day ever tried to eat the
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sand mum wiped Emma's face don't eat the
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sad Emma your mouth is for eating food
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and talking she gave amber a kiss kiss
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said Emma yes mouths are for kissing
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people we love mum said and she gave
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Emma a big hug
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so this is just a first page that's
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looking at actually introducing the
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concepts that our bodies actually have
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things that they do so melzar for eating
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of the kissing I don't like kissing I
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like to give nan and pop a hug mum and
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dad have told me I don't have to kiss
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people if I don't want to from my head
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to my toes I can say what goes so nice
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little rhyme that keeps going through so
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impressing that message that kids are
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the boss their body and bringing in this
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is a very early sort of protective
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behaviors thing about making sure that
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you don't force children to kiss people
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because sometimes I just don't want to
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it's also about protective behaviors so
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if someone is trying to make your child
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do something sexual with them that this
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is just starting to lay those first
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messages about kids being able to say no
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I don't want to do stuff that I don't
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want to do I've been learning all about
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my body and how I can help to look after
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myself
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I have eyes I have a nose I have a mouth
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they belong to me and I can learn to
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take care of them
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I wash my face I brush my teeth emma is
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learning to brush her teeth dad helps
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her your mouth belongs to you you have
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to learn to look after your teeth dad
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said one day you can do this by yourself
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again the rhyme and this page is just
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about starting to install those messages
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of the fact that eventually you need to
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look after all of your body and be
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responsible for itself Emma likes to run
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outside with no clothes on emma is a
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nerdy jock shouted Botti giggled Emma
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yes you have a bottom Monson but we need
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to put our clothes on to go to
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shops so boundary introducing boundaries
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in regards to we can wear our clothes at
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home but we don't wear them when we go
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to the shops so starting off very simple
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as I get older you bring in different
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layers and different rules that come in
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with this so for example it's okay to
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take your clothes off at home but not
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when the plumbers out the back digging a
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hole or what we have visitors
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everyone is private part ever has
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evolved on vagina Jack and I have a
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penis and testicles these are our
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private parts we have other private
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parts - we all have nipples and
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everyone's got a bottom bottom dataset
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on laughter Jack now some people include
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males for private parts because of
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sexual abuse mouths are often used this
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book doesn't and it has just nice simple
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little drawings very simple drawings
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whenever was born
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Jack wondered why Emma didn't have a
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penis and testicle like ours will she
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get one when she's older he asked mum
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smiled and said no and there is a girl
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and she has a vulva in a vagina
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she's a girl like you mum I said yes mum
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replied she is a girl like me so
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bringing up the fact of differences
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between gender that girls most girls
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have a vulva on a vagina and most boys
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have a penis on a testicle sometimes we
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have a shower with dad he helps us wash
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our hair my penis testicles and bottom a
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private dad gives me the soap to wash
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myself I wash my tummy my feet my penis
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my testicles and my bottom we can touch
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our own private parts washing myself
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helps to look after my body and the
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needs help washing her private parts
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when she is biggest like us she can look
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after herself too so bringing in the
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fact that dad helps with some parts but
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eventually or dad helps with all parts
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but eventually you need to start looking
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after all the parts yourself I have a
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big cousin Stuart he sleeps at our house
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sometimes we have fun together the last
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time he stayed he had a shower by
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himself with the door shut I asked mum
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why I couldn't shower with Stuart mum
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said that he wanted to be private she
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smiled and said from his head to his
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toes he can say what goes so introducing
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boundaries regards to door
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to shut their shut but also the fact of
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privacy that sometimes we don't want to
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share our bodies and we want to be alone
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we have rules in our house rules help to
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keep us safe mum and dad have given us a
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rule about touching nobody can touch our
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bodies including our private parts
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without good reason
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is someone bigger or older than me wants
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to touch or see my private parts or show
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me theirs that is not ok I think that is
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rude
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so again introducing rules and regards
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to rules about touch I think having
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rules is great because all families had
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rules so and rules usually aren't up for
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negotiation also gives different sort of
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interpretations of the rule but it might
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be someone older it might be someone you
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know or someone you like it might be a
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person that I know and like it is still
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not okay for them to touch or us to see
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my private parts or to show me theirs if
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someone wants to do something that is
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rude I can talk to a grown-up that I
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trust so bring that in again we don't
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have to keep secrets about our bodies or
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private parts mum said secrets can be
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about surprises and presents we can talk
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about our bodies feeling safe and
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feeling hurt mom is happy to talk to us
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about everything the touching rule helps
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me to take care of my body so again
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bringing in a new rule and this one is
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about secrets the secrets one is pretty
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important because with grooving for
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sexual abuse usually the groover likes
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to test that they can keep a secret
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before they proceed because you know
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there's no point doing stuff with kids
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if they're going to tell on you I'll end
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up in prison sooner and again that nice
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little roam right from our head to our
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toes we can say what goes sucks he came
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in and started cleaning himself
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oh no more nudity so Geoff body said
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Emma yes my bottoms laughs dad we can
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talk about bottoms we can talk about
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everything everyone's got a bottom I
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said from our head to our toes we can
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say what goes so it just finishes off
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with a bit of a laugh what I liked about
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this last page is you know the cat
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sitting there looking it's fun like cats
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do but it's sort of saying that everyone
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has body parts and private parts but it
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also normalizes it it shows that yeah
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we all have parts we can laugh it makes
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it nice and everyday so all in all it's
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a great little book and I think it's
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great because first of all it lays down
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the foundations for sex education but
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also protective behaviors it's a two in
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one it's almost probably the only book
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you need until your kids get that little
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bit older and want to start knowing
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about what how babies are made anyway I
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hope that helps Cheers
