Talking to young people about excusing men who use violence
Myths about men ‘losing their temper’ or ‘losing control’ seemingly still impact how some young people perceive domestic and family violence. It is important young people know that violence is a choice — it is about a person’s decision to try and control someone else not the loss of control.
While the National Community Attitudes Towards Violence Against Women Survey found most young people don’t think alcohol is an excuse for perpetuating violence against a partner, it’s still an important conversation for you to have.
- 1 in 4 young people are prepared to excuse partner violence in a range of scenarios.
- 26% agree partner violence can be excused, for instance, if the perpetrator regrets it afterwards.
- 24% agree violence can be excused if the perpetrator was so angry they ‘lost control’.
- Most young people (90%) don’t endorse being affected by alcohol as an excuse for perpetrating partner violence.
While it’s encouraging that most young people don’t think alcohol is an excuse for perpetuating violence against a partner, you should still talk with them about this as well.
|Practice considerations||Conversation ideas|
|He just ‘lost it’||
|He can’t help it — his dad used to be violent to his mum||
|My partner loves me — they’re not violent all the time||
|I think it’s my fault||
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