Supporting parents

Supporting parents and carers to support their young person 

Part of your role is to answer questions and clear up any misconceptions parents have about violence. When talking to parents you may want to give them the following tips about talking about sex, relationships and violence with their children.

• Identify and define the different types of abuse — use the Power and Control Wheel and the Equality Wheel For Teens.
• Explain the difference between lust, infatuation and love.
• Talk realistically and honestly about sex.
• Use gender-inclusive language and don’t assume sexual orientation.
• Set expectations and boundaries.
• Offer your support.
• Know when to ask for help.

Signs of a young person experiencing dating violence

Both you and the parents should be aware and on the lookout for these signs a young person is experiencing dating violence:

• avoidance of friends and social events
• excusing their partner's behaviour
• fearfulness around their partner
• loss of interest in school or activities that were once enjoyable suspicious bruises, scratches or other injuries.

Effects of dating violence

Young people whose partner is using violence against them are at increased risk of long-term consequences, including poor academic performance, binge drinking and suicide attempts. The emotional impact of violence may also be lasting, increasing the likelihood of experiencing violence again in the future.

The lessons young people learn today about respect, healthy relationships, and what is right or wrong will carry over into their future relationships.

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